Dan Savage is usually right on but he seems to have missed the boat a bit on this one. A woman asks is it “un-feminist” of her to lie about her lost virginity.
Ridiculing the questioner is a complete failure to recognize the fucked up culture women live in where they are categorized as either sluts or virgins.
Yes perhaps she should grow a pair and stop picking dickheads who have this world view… But then, depending where you live, this could result in celibacy or cutting your options considerably.
Yes a feminist doesn’t have to apologize for not being a virgin or, for that matter, for being one.
But let’s acknowledge that this world is, for the most part, not populated with feminists and the predominant culture imposes a false dichotomy which hurts women.
Not everyone has the confidence to navigate that minefield in style.